you are cared for...

awwww. ...... love and friendship!

Most often friends and family are unsure of how to support you when you are fatigued and in pain, and this poster inspired me to share a bit of my experience.

It took me years before I actually started opening up about my illness, my needs and wishes. But I was so amazed to learn how eager friends and family really were to be there for me.

Feeling cared for and truly supported has made such an impact and difference for me health wise. It has meant less stress trying to hide my daily "hurdles", less guilt for not being able to make all social events and less feeling isolated because now I can ask for what I need when I am recouping.

But the key has certainly been to communicate clearly, sorting out who is "on board"- sadly not everyone can handle illness - and be direct about what you need. Sometimes it might be as simple as someone coming over and just "hang out", or it could be to hang out and watch movies, shop for you, cook for you, or how about someone reading a magical fairy tale to you (never tried that one, but sounds pretty fabulous come to think of it).

Some of my friends have shown up in beautiful ways I did not expect, some have said "Mette, I am not sure how to support you.  You are such a strong and independent woman", and some have vanished without a trace due to the "hassle" of inconsistent levels of energy. 

I have become comfortable with my roller coaster lifestyle after now 28 years. But I also believe that a journey filled with uncertainty, is not for everyone. It takes a "powerhouse" to keep up the spirit day in and day out, and I can see why some friends need to bail. 

This to say I hope you are a faster mover than me (smile!). And when you feel you are ready to be brave, bold, honest and open, I can promise you, that the people in your life who really matter will show up and make your life so much more meaningful.         

Share with me some of your greatest surprises for people "showing up" in your life. Please!








Peppermint Sugar Scrub Bars


This is a nice refreshing perky scrub. Very apropos for a fatigued body.

This is an easy project BUT it is also one of my longer ones, so if you are exhausted today then this might not be the project to embark on just now.



  • 1/4 cup coconut oil
  • 1/2 cup soap base
  • 3-4 drops of peppermint essential oil
  • 1 cup organic sugar
  • Colorant (optional)



  1. In a double boiler, melt your shredded soap (patience is a must. can take up to an hour). Or you can microwave the soap in 15 second intervals, stirring in between until melted.
  2. Mix in the coconut oil until combined and then add your peppermint essential oil.
  3. Add color if you so desire (food color or other)
  4. Finally, add ½ cup of sugar. Mix until well combined. You want a slushy like consistency.
  5. Pour the soap mix into your silicone molds. Do allow the bars to dry for a few hours before you remove the fabulous bars from your mold.
  6. and voila.... invigorate your beautiful body!



Honey Coconut Body Melt

This is a favorite of mine for one of my  "dud' recoup days. It is luscious, super easy and a fabulous body softy makeover.  If I see Ylang Ylang though, then I am fully on board.

I have an old pot I use for all my home DIY spa related projects. That might be a good consideration for next time you are ready to replace an old pot.

But here is the recipe- nice and easy:

1/2 tbsp beeswax
2.5 tbsp virgin coconut oil
2 drops clove bud essential oil
25 drops ylang ylang essential oil

Melt the beeswax and coconut oil together in a double boiler. Once melted, remove from the heat.

Stir in the essential oils and pure into a beautiful 2oz container, jar, ceramic cup or other.



Now all that is needed is for you to go to your couch, lean back, play some relaxing music and massage your new body melt into the skin and enjoy the decadent scent!

Uhh..and a final excellent piece of advice :-): sniff your hands regularly for an extra awesome aromatherapeutic experience.

Brain power- blueberry & Avocado smoothie

A sharp woman with a great sense of humor can conquer the world as far as I am concerened. So when I saw a recipe for "brain power" I immediately jumped at it. Only I tweaked the original recipe a bit to fit my protein and anti- inflammatory needs.

Super easy, and pure love and brain power in one shake.

Blend together:

  • 2 cups blueberries
  • 1 cup pomegranate juice
  • 1 Tbsp. chia seeds
  • 1 ripe banana, peeled
  • half of an avocado, peeled and pitted
  • 3 cups baby kale
  • 3 Tbsp. hemp powder

Add ice cubes if you like, but I prefer to just add frozen blueberries.

Super yummy!




Recoup with a DIY sensational Lavender & Coconut Bath Salt

Today is a recoup day and out comes the list of my favorite DIY perks for recoup days. I have gone through my kitchen cabinets looking for herbs, oils and salt as well as gone through my beloved aroma-therapeutic oil supplies to see what enticing fragrances I currently own.  And now that I know what I have to work with, I make sure there is enough zest in me for the next 5 min to complete the spa treatment perk.  In other words nap before or after the bath.

Today I have ingredients to make a fabulous bath salt with lavender, coconut oil and Himalaya Pink salt. You will always find Himalayan salt in my kitchen as it is an amazing source of minerals for cooking. However, If you don't have Himalayan salt, feel free to use Epson Salt instead. I have also added a splash of natural lavender flowers and coconut flakes for show (nothing new there).

This is such a delicious mix with such an amazing aroma.

Now let us soak, relax, recoup and get our super powers back!

Feel free to also share your DIY recoup recipe.



In a bowl mix the following:


  • 1 cup Himalayan Pink Salt to soothe tired muscles and reduce inflammation
  • Melt about 1/4 cup of coconut oil to soften water and soothe your skin
  • Add a few drops of Lavender aroma-therapeutic oil


Do note that the coconut flakes and lavender flowers will not dissolve in the water. You might want to keep that in mind for the amount you splash into the mix.










Shake it up...



I woke up not feeling great. Or let me rephrase this,  I woke up feeling super crappy. Pains and aches in muscles and joints, and slightly nauseated from taking Methotrexate. My herniated disc, which I miraculously managed to get under control earlier this year, is acting up again. Yes, not a great start to my day.  The sciatic pain has shown its ugly head in the past few days. And if you are familiar with sciatic pain, I am sure you know, what I mean when I say; anything BUT sciatic pain. I have set reminders on my phone now to walk a mile in the neighborhood every 3 hours and to do my physical therapy exercises twice daily until my back is under control again. Let there be relief, I say.

My fabulous friend, Karen, asked me what perk the "Champagne, Pearls and CI" lifestyle could offer me today. And that lead me to treat myself to this energizing, luscious and glamorous looking protein shake (it is all about the presentation).

Yum, yum and yum.  My day is feeling better by the minute!




Here is my "love portion" recipe:

1/2 cup Cranberry juice -unsweetened,

1/2 cup Pineapple juice

4 cups Spinach

3 tbsp Hemp powder

1.5 cups Raspberries

1 medium Banana






Grilled Cherry Almond Milkshake

Not all fabulous foods and drinks are created equal. This grilled cherry-coconut-milkshake is beyond words and a MUST try. I am so excited and drooling a bit.           -Mette

Grill the cherries in the oven at 375-400 degrees (cut in halves, no stems and pit, please). Chill in fridge after 10-12 minutes in the oven.

Once chilled, blend the various ingredients until you find the appropriate consistency. The cherries should be added last and blended separately.

  • 1/2 can coconut milk
  • 8 oz unsweetened almond milk
  • 1/2 pound fresh cherries
  • 2 tbsp honey
  • 1 teaspoons vanilla extract
  • pinch of chili
Claimed health benefits of cherries:
  • Antioxidant Protection.
  • Cancer-Preventive Compounds.
  • Reduce Inflammation and Your Risk of Gout.
  • Support Healthy Sleep (Melatonin) .
  • Arthritis Pain Relief.
  • Reduce Belly Fat.
  • Reduce Post-Exercise Muscle Pain.
  • Lower Risk of Stroke.


Green Tea Sugar Scrub

If this is not amazing I don't know what is. Recouping is part of our journey and while you are at home, I say let us make something really extraordinary for you. 
You deserve it! 

And of course if you are at the full on fatigue stage, it is utterly unrealistic to get into a larger demanding creative project. So this is a super simple little perk.  It is a Green Tea sugar scrub for body, hands and for a pure silky soft home treatment. The key is to have all the ingredients available at home as I assume you are not going anywhere.

So if you don't have green tea, use any other herbal tea to make it a luscious treat just for YOU.

Enjoy!                           -Mette

Green Tea Sugar Scrub Recipe:

  • 1 ½ cup white sugar
  • 2 tsp. green tea powder
  • 2 green tea bags
  • 1 cup coconut oil

Recipe Directions: Open green tea bags and empty green tea leaves and set aside. In a bowl place white sugar, green tea powder and loose leaf tea leaves; mix together all the ingredients until the green tea powder is incorporated into the sugar. Then slowly add coconut oil and stir until all the mixture is covered in oil. Place in air tight container and store.


Now once you have relaxed and recouped you will be showing up again with a silky smooth skin treatment.